Be merciful to me, O LORD, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and my body with grief. Psalm 31:9

Problem Page

If you have arrived at this page from a search engine, we must explain that it is here, unashamedly to catch your attention and offer the answer to your problem(s).

If you have arrived from the main body of this web site you are, presumably, interested in finding out how a relationship with Jesus can be the answer to life's problems; and not just a religious activity.  Jesus, as we encounter him in the Bible, was talking to real people, about real people and real life situations.  This is where our faith must work.

Before you think, "This is a religious site, and religion is one of the worldís biggest problems, not the cure", please donít groan and click away somewhere else, please check out what we have to say.  This page is not from a fringe sect and seeks nothing from you.

Yes, "religion" is a major problem when it gets in the way of knowing God and allowing him to sort out our lives.   This page offers a "plain language, no jargon, non sectarian" introduction to the God who made us all and understands us better than anyone else, including ourselves.

Our problems stem from living in a world, which fell away from the perfection in which it was created, and all our problems can be traced back to this fall.   But God already had a plan to put things right.   Believe me he can sort out your problems and he really wants to if you will only ask.

Try this for a list of problems

Loneliness, relationship breakdown, abuse, disappointment, dependence on drugs, tobacco or alcohol, stress,  depression, rejection, self loathing, eating disorders, fear of death, fear of condemnation, fear of failing, illness and fear of illness, money, unfulfilled ambition.   Has life left you feeling worthless and unloved?   Has your experience of religion or religious people made that feeling worse by suggesting that God condemns you too?

Let me reassure you on that last point first.   God loves you more than you can possibly imagine; more than anyone else possibly could and he has proved it by coming to this world as a man.   We will explain how this has solved our problems, overall and then specifically.

If you want the explanation first click here  The Gospel (Good News) in a nutshell

On the cross, when Jesus died, an exchange took place Ė all the good due to him came to us and all the bad due to us was put on him.         Click here The Cross to see how his death heals our ills.

"Can anyone love me?"  " Iím such a failure."     " . . .after what Iíve done?"

Jesus came and died for you. He said, "I came to call sinners . . . not the righteous" He certainly didnít come for the smug.   If you feel unworthy of being loved, remember Jesus reminded us how God cares for the birds "and arenít you worth more than two sparrows".   Jesus came to die for You ! -  How much must you be worth to Him?

If you can accept that God loves and values you, canít you then see your worth, and live life with a new positive outlook.   Jesus said, "What good will it do a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?",  so your soul must be worth more than the whole world from his point of view.

"Iím so stupid; look at the things I have done"

God gives wisdom to those who seek him, but those who think they are smart He leaves to their own cleverness. "The foolishness of God is wiser than the wisdom of man", and the result of the smart peopleís cleverness will one day be shown up. The Bible is full of guidance for living and avoiding all the mistakes we tend to make. The way we try to live without God is like trying to use some complicated machine without reading the manufacturers handbook. "If all else fails, read the instructions". "There is a way that seems right to a man (woman), but the end is death", says one of the Proverbs in the Bible.  

If your past is haunting you,  simply trust in Jesus: the rest doesn't matter.   "If any man (or woman) is in Christ, he (she) is a new creation - all things have become new."   You may find it hard to put your past behind you, but God promised to put it "as far away as the East is from the West" or "into the deepest sea".

"Look what life has done to me."    Relationship breakdown, betrayal, redundancy

These things do happen in this sad old world but two things should be said here.   Firstly, if you and your friend, partner, whoever are trusting in Jesus He will help you to weather the storms that might otherwise destroy your relationships.   Secondly, in the knocks you receive in life Jesus can be a firm rock on which you can stand and a hiding place where you can run and be safe.   Like a child who can run to a loving parent for a hug and reassurance that it is loved.   You can pour it all out to him.   The prophet Isaiah said, "Surely He has borne our grief's and carried our sorrows".

"My marriage is falling apart"

There aren't quick answers to this.  There can be so many reasons for marriages to become difficult.  Most Christian couples will tell you that they have difficulties, but that with God's help they can cope with them.  Even having said that we must acknowledge that plenty of Christian couples have split up.

We have to do a lot of work on this one . . . . . . . . . . . . But the bottom line is this - 

God can make all things new - including you and your spouse.  He can give us his Holy Spirit to live within us and give us the love, patience, tolerance and forgiveness we need to love each other.  Remember; God intended love to be a lifetime commitment - an act of will - that we decide we are going to be married until death parts us - that we must work for our marriage rather than expecting it to all be lovely and romantic.   If you are willing to turn your lives over to Jesus, he can help you to rebuild them.  (I realize this is not a simple matter, as God will not force your spouse to believe - but you can pray for that )

"I feel too dirty for God (or anybody else) to love me "

You arenít the only person to feel this.   Many victims of abuse, rape or even a bad relationship are left feeling dirty and guilty.   You have to realize it was not your fault.   Many more feel like this because of a string of sexual relationships which have proved loveless.   Jesus came to people like you, those who polite society scorned, and he took delight in them.

In the Gospels we meet the woman at the well (who had had five husbands before her latest man), Mary from Magdala (a despised woman who poured her perfume over Jesus) and the woman caught in the act of adultery whom Jesus refused to condemn, The crooked tax gatherer who was saved, and plenty more.

Jesusí first priority in helping anybody was forgiving them their sins Ė he healed their sicknesses after that. The Bible tells us "the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all unrighteousness" He died to take our punishment, but his blood goes on dealing with the things we still do wrong. "Our sins he (God) has cast into the depths of the sea" and God has put up a "No Fishing" sign.

"I couldnít go into church, they would all look down on me"

You might find you are wrong about that, as churches should be full of other people like you who have realized they need to be forgiven and made over anew.   If you find a church where they look down on you, they have a real problem - try another church.   Nobody in church has any more right to stand before God, confident that they are good enough.   We have all failed the test in some way or another.   But nobody is too bad to be forgiven either.   Jesusí death had enough power to purchase forgiveness for anyone, including you.    ("All we, like sheep, have gone astray ÖÖ.the Lord has laid on him (Jesus) the iniquity (all the wrong we have done) of us all" Isaiah 53 v)

"The church wonít accept me; I am divorced"

This is a controversial subject as some churches would not marry you again while others would.  Lets look at what God actually said.   

 Jesus did not, as some maintain forbid divorce, but he said "Moses (in the book of the Law) allowed divorce because of the hardness of your hearts."  What Jesus did speak against was re-marriage.   He said in Matthew 5 v31,  "It has been said, `Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'  But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery..  In God's eyes we become a single entity once we come together as man and wife.  (Genesis 2 v24 - " For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh")  God hates divorce and wants us to have just one life partner as He does not want us to inflict such pain on each other.  He would rather give us His power to mend a difficult marriage.  

However, once you have been divorced the question is clearly, "what now?".  Divorce is not "the one unforgivable sin" and any church policy that makes you feel that is clearly in error.  

It has been pointed out that one of the teachings about divorce

( "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery." )

should be seen against the background of recent happenings (The King had divorced his wife in order to marry his brother's wife)  In this case the man was deliberately using divorce to legitimize adultery;  this is not the same as marrying again some time after the breakdown of a marriage.

also, as someone pointed out, the phrase "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman .... " could just as well be translated "Anyone who divorces his wife in order to marry another woman .... "

 What we must not lose sight of is that God is most concerned about us being forgiven and reconciled to him.  Once we have been saved and forgiven we should aim to follow His ways.  The Christian can not be walking with God and still  have affairs or get divorced and remarried.  But if you have become a Christian, in Godís eyes you are forgiven through Jesus,  and all things are made new; "we are new creatures in him".   (All previous marriages and divorces, or other partnerships, have been forgiven)  If you have been made anew I don't see a problem if God should find you a new (Christian) spouse.

"Christians hate me because I am gay."

or    "Someone I love is having doubts about his/her sexuality"

Jesus loves us all;  as sinners seeking forgiveness!  That is what we Christians are, and we can come to him on no other basis.  In the case of the woman caught in the act of adultery  (John 8 v1-11)  Jesus said,  "Neither do I condemn you.  Now go and don't sin any more."   What Jesus has a problem with is when we demand that he accepts our sin.    Whatever sin we have, we need to leave it behind at his cross.   This applies to all types of sin - not just sexual sins.    

The question is,  is homosexual activity sinful?    Is it against God's standards?    (we are not talking about man's standards)  Three Bible passages convince Bible believing Christians that homosexual activity is against God's law.  They are Genesis chapter 19,  Leviticus chapter 18 and Romans chapter 1.  A person will not be judged on his inclinations but on his actions.   We are all born with the inclination to rebel against God and His law.   The Christian life is about trusting in Jesus to enable us to live sin free lives.   Jesus can give you the power to overcome anything and to live pleasing him.  

 (Bible believing Christians should love you - not hate you;  but you won't find that they approve of homosexual activity. )

See Homosexuality - the facts you don't often hear for the whole debate and the medical facts.

"I think I am . . . . Gay, Lesbian or Bisexual"

You are not actually Gay, Lesbian or Bisexual because of confusing feelings of sexual attraction which you may have.  You are only a homosexual if you are engaging in homosexual activities.  Many people campaigning to make homosexuality widely acceptable and equated with heterosexual relationships will attempt to say you are born homosexual or are genetically homosexual if you have feelings of same sex attraction.  This is not true; it is a campaigning position.  The question about these feelings is no different from feelings of sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.   God says that we are to be masters of our feelings and not give in to lust towards anyone who is not our husband/wife.   You might find it helpful to regard yourself as, "someone who struggle with same sex attraction" rather than gay, lesbian or bisexual.  Jesus promised help in our struggles.

"I cant kick this habit"      - Drugs, Alcohol, Smoking, Pornography

When Jesus started of his teaching and healing work he read from the book of Isaiah (chapter 61), including the words, "I have come to . . . To proclaim release for the captive ." . .".    Addiction is a captivity, and Satan (his name means the adversary Ė the one who opposes and accuses you) wants to hold you as a prisoner and stop you enjoying your life as God intended you should.   Many people have found that Jesus has been able to set them free from habits and addictions that had held them captive.

Sickness and fear of sickness, Cancer, HIV, old age

We rely on modern medicine to make us well, but we are always aware of the illnesses that could kill us.   We should realize that even modern medicine cannot protect us from everything.   Perhaps part of our problem is not being prepared to face death, which comes to us all one day, because we are not ready to meet God and be judged for our lives.   But if you read the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) you will see how many people Jesus healed.   In the book of Acts you will see that Jesusí followers also healed the sick.   Sadly the Church has neglected healing and let medicine take over.   God has not changed and he is still able to heal by the blood of Jesus.   Great healings are still happening, mostly in third world countries where our medicine is unavailable but people are prepared to trust in Jesus.   Some churches in the West are also rediscovering healing. Donít let the unbelief of your local church keep you from getting healed if you are willing to trust Jesus.    Healing

Depression and other mental illness

As for Healing of physical illness, Jesus can heal the mind.   I know Jesus can heal depression and he healed the man known as Legion (a schizophrenia sufferer)

I must be jinxed / cursed

This could be the case.  The spiritual battle over the world involves two sides and the forces opposing God also have power.   If someone has invoked satanic power to curse you or your family, the results may have stretched down the generations resulting in sickness, premature deaths and all sorts of disasters.   The good news is that Jesus defeated Satan when He died on the cross.   The cross dealt specifically with curses, in that Jesus took the curses that were on us for himself and we get the blessings that were due to Jesus.  (see Cross Exchange for the explanation)    If you are willing to trust your life to Jesus, or you have already, you can take this deliverance for yourself.  As well as praying the sinner's prayer, you can add that you claim the deliverance from all curses and declare that you have cut them off from yourself so they have no power over you or your family, because the blood of Jesus has taken away all curses from you.

Money Problems

This website does not say God will make you wealthy, but He promised we would lack nothing good.  Check out if your expectations are justified.  Handing your life over to Jesus might help you to solve your income problems, or He may just change your outlook and enable you to be satisfied.  With God, surprising things happen - many find that giving to God when they can ill afford it results in them ending up better off.   Check out Jesus' teaching in Matthew chapter 6 verses 19 to 34.

This is The deal (Click here  )

This may sound too good to be true, and your experience of ordinary Christians like us may not give you confidence that Jesus can do this for you.   What you must remember is that Christians are just like you are except that they have trusted God to forgive them.   From then on,  we are supposed to live trusting His promises and experiencing more miraculous healing of the problems in our lives.   Unfortunately, most of us do not go on to experience the renewing power He has to offer us.   Do not judge God by looking at us.   We should demonstrate his love and power but we donít often do a very good job.   

Donít rely on the middle man Ė go straight to Jesus.  

Click here to Become a Follower of Jesus

Or -  if you are Jewish, click   Beginners Messianic Judaism  to find out about Yeshua, your Messiah, the answer to your problems.

For more detail about Christianity, click here  Beginners guide to the Christian Faith  

This page is part of a larger web site which explains the importance of the fact that Jesus came from the Jewish people, as a fulfilment of the Jewish faith and writings.   Thus Christianity is rooted in Judaism and the Christian has Jewish roots.   You don't need to know all this just now, but it really helps understand Jesus and Christianity.   

To look into this click here - the Wild Olive branch picture of Christians grafted into Israel

This page does not address every problem suffered by mankind, and the author is not qualified to offer counselling.  However, if you feel a problem should be included please E-mail me.


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